All Things Come to an End

I’ve been teaching guitar for more than 30 years. I teach at home, and was asked to teach at a local school in 2005.

My Guitar. And some tatting.

Pupil numbers do tend to cycle – when money is tight, people cut ‘luxuries’ like music lessons first – but the numbers always picked up again eventually. I’m still quite busy at the school – much better than last year – but I only have one pupil at home and she will be finishing at the end of this term.

I’ve considered advertising, but if my husband’s health deteriorates, I will have to stop anyway. So I’ve decided to just let it go. We’ll just have to see about the school – the long term head of the music department left a year or two ago, and things haven’t been the same. In 2009 theΒ orchestra competed in Vienna and obtained a third place. They were competing against orchestras larger than the entire school!

My husband is going along. He is much better than he was at one stage, but his speech has been affected quite badly. He slurs his words and often can’t remember the name of things, for instance he said the other day he had to go for an injection, when what he meant was a blood test. He speaks softly as well, which compounds the problem. I am getting very good at guessing. We do usually get there in the end!

I’m still busy with knitting and tatting. Hopefully there will be some photos next time. The Iris Neibach doily has been the cause of much cursing! But it is going to be beautiful, and well worth the trouble.

About notewords

Guitarist, Music teacher, Writer
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27 Responses to All Things Come to an End

  1. joey says:

    Tatting is amazing. My mother has done a

    • joey says:

      I wasn’t done, Okay, WordPress?!? … couple of small tatting projects and I honestly admire the craft and y’all’s patience! Nicely done!
      I don’t know whether to be happy or sad for you about giving up teaching at home. I wonder if you know which to be, either. I’m certainly sad your husband struggles, but glad you do get there eventually.

      • notewords says:

        I find the tatting soothing (when things don’t go horribly wrong).
        I am in two minds. I love teaching, but times do change.
        Thanks for the two part comment! (Compliments of WordPress… πŸ˜‰

  2. Yes, everything comes to an end sometimes, but this end can chance again in the future, future is unknown!
    I am happy your husband is getting well, words are not a problem if you comprehend eachother 😁
    You comprehend my English as well πŸ˜‚
    Seriously, my mom and I have found a new language to speak and write, we call it blablablue πŸ˜„
    Have a wonderful Tuesday πŸ’•
    Sid

  3. Really looking forward to seeing this exasperating piece you’re working on and well done on the decision making re home students – times come and then move on don’t they? Glad to hear your husband’s general situation has been relieved somewhat and I’d consider confusing an injection with a blood test well within the ‘ball park’ of wording. My mother would come out with totally unrelated constructs leaving us flapping in the wind as it were πŸ™‚

  4. I pray he gets better and better. Stay blessed.

  5. salpal1 says:

    glad he is doing so well, and think it makes perfect sense to let go of the teaching as it evolves. My grandfather had dementia, and early on in the process, he lost some vocab. One day we spent a good long time with him describing what he meant, and me guessing until I got it right – tape. Such a simple thing but so frustrating for him. Glad you two understand each other.

    Tatting and knitting are still there for you. πŸ™‚

  6. So appreciative of your update on your blog and sending you lots of love.

  7. WOL says:

    I think both you and I are in a part of life where the incline is slowly but surely getting steeper and to make it through, we both are having to let go of some of the demands on our time and energy in order to conserve our strength. We just have to deal with what each day brings as it comes. Instead of thinking of your not having any more home students (for a while), not as giving something up, or losing something, but as life cutting you a little slack to allow you to concentrate on what is most important, helping your husband through this very difficult time. Hoping that grace and courage will be there when you need them, as well as patience, strength, and helping hands and hearts.

    Doing a piece that has a difficult technique or stitch, or a complicated pattern can be a little bit like wrestling the proverbial angel. No matter how many times you have to stop and frog out a mistake, and redo bits, and become frustrated and struggle with it, you just can’t let it go until it “blesses” you with turning out how it’s supposed to. That feeling of having accomplished something tricky and difficult makes it all worth it, though.

  8. D J Mills says:

    I also do the guessing game with my Mum over the phone. I just keep guessing different words relating to the conversation until she hears the correct one. I also repeat a lot of things, like the town I live in, my kids names, etc, and how long she has lived in the Aged Care unit, because she forgets all short term things. But she is crystal clear on her childhood, and teen years. i hear some wonderful things she did with her brothers when young. πŸ™‚

    Look at giving up teaching music as free time to recharge your own batteries, and as spare time to tat or whatever. I sometimes just sit in the back yard watching my chooks, or watching the grass grow without thinking at all. A time out for me, but not beating myself up over “wasted time” when the time out is doing me good. πŸ™‚

    Hang in there, knowing there are a lot of us working our way through similar situations. And hugs from me.

  9. yumi says:

    It’s been a while. How have you been so far? I am sorry for what you have to be deal with. It’s sassy to say to encourage, but I don’t want to be a cheesy person. I want you to keep blogging if it helps you. Hugs tight to you!

  10. So sorry to hear that you have to give up something you love. Maybe it is the universe’s way of making the way for a new door. I’m sorry that you husband is having health issues. I’m sure you are a great comfort to him.

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